PROMPTNESS AND PUNCTUALITY
Wherever and whenever your character is under scrutiny
or being assessed, you will be judged on the basis of these two qualities
(along with many others to follow). These ordinary looking words in fact are
very significant. They attribute an important characteristic related to value,
worth and reliability of any person. If you wish you are not being ignored by
the people around you and your superiors, better know all about this quality, read
the five rules given blow and assimilate them so that they become your
character. But first know that we mean by these qualities. Promptness and punctuality
means the following:-
1. The
characteristic of being able to complete a required task or fulfill an obligation before or at a previously designated time.
2.
The
quality or habit of adhering to an appointed time.
3.
Acting
or arriving exactly at the time appointed, promptly.
You may ask as to why this promptness or punctuality is
so important? Please examine yourself.
Being punctual
(i)
Strengthens
and reveals your integrity.
(ii)
Shows
you are dependable.
(iii)
Builds
your self-confidence.
(iv)
Assures
you are at your best.
(v)
Builds
and reveals your discipline.
(vi) Shows
your humility.
Therefore, try hard to cultivate the following in
your character:-
1. Try to develop a time sense. If you have an
appointment to meet some one at five minutes to twelve, start early enough so
you can be there a few minutes ahead of time.
2.
Realize that if you just fret about doing your work,
the job will be on your hands again and again in stead of only once.
3.
Start on your work early, so you will have time to get
it finished.
4.
Keep a record of your successes and failure in being
on time.
5. Keep a record of what you have to do. Check off each
job as it is completed.
ANGER
In your promptness in attending to your obligatory
duties (नियत कर्म) and in all your punctuality and sincerity, you may
often face irritating situations. Therefore, let us look at this negative
quality called ANGER. I am going to deal with Anger through its inception and
birth to its aftermaths soon in my blog VEDANTA: THE ULTIMATE PHILOSOPHY. This blog is essentially for tips to young
people and therefore does not require many details.
All of us know that ‘anger’ is, some times, very
harmful sentiment yet it often engulfs most of us. “Anybody can become angry –
that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and
at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not
within every body’s power and is not easy.” said Aristotle. So, let’s be
careful on the issue of anger.
There are three easy ways to avoid the possibility of harmful results from anger. They are:-
1.
Try to analyse the cause or reason for your anger. If you can look
upon the situation realistically and calmly, you will be much better able to do
something constructive about it.
2.
Try to ‘work off your steam’ instead of ‘taking it
out’ on some one else or letting it upset you too much.
3.
Forgo mailing that letter or doing any thing else on
impulse. A few hours later or the next day you will be glad you did not do it.
You will come across number of very popular advices
against anger. Any advice that works on you in preventing the anger and saves
you from its ugly consequences is of importance. Let us go through those
routine advices we normally come across.
1.
Take time out. That is, count up to ten, or chant some holy
word or mantra few times, or think of some one whom you loved, liked or
respected.
2.
Express your anger when your mind is calm. The anger is a very
powerful emotion and must be either substituted, sublimated or expressed in a
right way at right moment. Suppression of the same is dangerous. For that it is
advised that express it when your mind is not overwhelmed with this emotion and
is relatively calm. In this condition, the devastating effects of the anger can
be minimized.
3.
Utilize physical outlets. Go for a brisk walk or run
or involve yourself in some physical diversion at the time you feel your anger
is escalating. Workout yourself. That will work.
4.
Hold your tongue. Learn to pause and think
before you speak. Normally in the heat of the moment the blunders are
committed. Postpone the conversation if it is likely to raise anger.
5.
Identification of solutions. Instead concentrating on
what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Make yourself realize
that the anger will not fix anything. It will possibly make it worse.
6.
Avoid blaming. Normally the quarrels start when one says “you
did this” or “you are responsible for this whole mess” etc. Instead you may say
“I am hurt or upset or in pain because of
...” That diminishes the force of anger.
7.
Forgive. It is a most powerful tool. Let not this
negative impulse over-power you. It will diminish and injure your positive
strength. Do not allow it to swallow up your brighter aspects.
8.
Practice relaxation skills. When your temper flares
up, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a
relaxing scene, or sing some nice song etc, whatever it takes to encourage
relaxation.
9.
Lighten up. Don’t use sarcasm. Don’t abuse or call names.
Instead use humour to release tension. Gently
smile back to the people who intend to create tension.
10. Seek help. Learning to control anger
is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if
your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts
those around you. You might explore local anger management classes, or practice
meditation. Speak to some one whom you consider wiser and sympathetic. Please
do not suppress it.
Remember – anger is a response to frustration. The happiest life is the life without any frustration.
I wish, you lead an anger free life supported by
promptness and punctuality. I will give you more tips involving various traits
of mind that create your character.
Till then,
Yaduraj Singh Bais
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